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Mental Health Should be Nurtured Not Ignored

If this offends you then it very well may be YOU. Too many times I hear “I’m unhappy with everyone and everything around me.” The key words here are “I’m unhappy.” Far too many times we want to find fault and blame in those we love and others, when we are unhappy with ourselves. You cannot and will not be happy with anyone else if you are unhappy in general. We have to detach ourselves as a people from thinking “It’s not me its everyone else.”

Mental health is huge for everyone and it doesn’t matter your ethnicity, moral standing or financial status. Depression is real, PTSD is real, anxiety is real. But what makes it a danger is when you fail to see it happening to YOU and refuse to get help. The narcissism kicks in and everything is everyone else’s defunct and you’re perfect. This leads to brash and poor decision making because you believe you can “fix” your unhappiness but directly dealing with others instead of self.

As for heads of household, friends, spouses etc. You are doing an injustice for those you love if you constantly take care to make sure your loved one’s mental health is in good standing while neglecting your own. You have to take care of your mental health as well. You have to acknowledge your weakness and faults (proactively) so you can get better, be better and ultimately receive better. Can you do it alone? Most of the time the answer is no. But please know that getting help is not a WEAKNESS. Blaming others is.

A.D. Sommerio    

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